As kids and teens, we often saw our parents and other adults engage in contention or seek to avoid conflict at all costs. We probably developed an attitude that "conflict is bad!" But conflict in by itself is not "good" or "bad"—it's HOW we engage with each other in conflict and the "intention" we bring to that interaction that matters most.
I love "Collaborative Conflict" and find it to be is an essential part of a healthy marriage relationship. When we abandon connection through healthy conflict and instead plunge into "contention" that's when the relationship falls apart. In this brief video you'll learn the difference between "conflict" and "contention."
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