There's 3 Things You Need to Know
1. Your Husband's Porn Problem is NOT Fair
and It's NOT Your Fault!
This is NOT a trial you asked for! No woman says "I do" expecting to deal with a situation of this magnitude. Perhaps you knew about your husband’s porn use before marriage but were unaware of how serious it was. Perhaps your husband concealed or downplayed his past behaviors, or his addictive tendencies didn’t start until after you were married. It doesn’t really matter, because regardless of the circumstances, it's NOT fair! You did NOTHING to deserve this and it’s NOT your fault!
2. Betrayal Trauma can make your
entire marriage feel like a lie!
A healthy marriage relationship is always built on trust, loyalty, love and mutual respect. The shocking discovery of infidelity brings intense feelings of anger and confusion. Whether sexual infidelity is virtual or physical, there are few experiences that create more hurt and pain. When you are betrayed by the person who vowed to honor, respect, love and cherish you above all others, your world shatters. This “betrayal trauma” can trigger overwhelming feelings of anger, fear, confusion, anxiety, depression, fatigue and much more.
3. There is Great Hope!
We know what it's like to have fear and anxiety about the future. Please take hope in the fact that your husband can break permanently free from addiction. There is a beautiful healing path for you and a restoration to self-esteem and peace of mind. We are living proof that marriages, however broken, can heal. And though you would like nothing more than to see your husband’s full recovery, you can heal and move forward with complete confidence and self-worth regardless of what he chooses to do or not do.
Someone Who Understands
Hi, I'm Mark Kastleman. As a Counselor, over the last 19 years I've focused on providing hope and a path of healing for men battling with pornography and sexual addiction; women who bear the heavy burden of betrayal trauma; and couples striving to mend their marriage relationship.
I'm also in successful long-term recovery from my own struggles with pornography addiction. I have a deep empathy and understanding for my clients, men and women. After more than 30 years of marriage, my wife Ladawn and I know the personal heartache and fallout of addiction, the triumph of recovery and what it takes for both spouses to heal and successfully move forward together. It's also important to know that I work with a LOT of couples where their church and faith are VERY important to them. For example, I help a lot of LDS men struggling with porn addiction.